I have a few questions for you.
- Are you having the quality of life that you want?
- Are you producing the kind of results that you want in your life, your job, your career, or your business?
If you are, CONGRATULATIONS! You have created your ideal life. Keep doing what you are doing and teach others how to get similar results.
If you are like most people though, the answer is not entirely a YES.
Now the question is, what is standing in your way of getting the results that you want in your life, your job, your career or business? Who is responsible for the results that you are getting or are not getting?
Here is a scenario; you are at university and you score a 90% in a test- what do you say? ‘I scored a 90%! I worked hard at it. Yes I did it!’ You are so right. You did.
Now let’s hear what happens when you score a 49%? Most likely we’ll hear something like; ‘the mean, malicious professor gave me a 49%’. We hear this kind of response in all areas…at work, when you get a promotion- ‘I’m that good’! But what would you say when you are bypassed? ‘My supervisor is malicious! He favored the other persons!’ Now I’m not about making you wrong but I’d like to share some truths here.
The truth is, you have 100% responsibility for your life and for the results in all areas of your life- your health, your work/business/education, your personal development, your relationships, your fun and recreation, your spiritual life and your service/contribution.
What this means is that you as an individual needs to step in the driver’s sit and take charge of your life and the direction that you want to go. You have responsibility to develop yourself in the different areas of life. I know sometimes we hide behind the spiritual aspect and claim that we are not the ones in charge but God is. Yes HE is, all the time! Yet here is the question; who is responsible for giving your life and your desires to God? It comes back to you my friend. It is you who MUST take responsibility for where you want your life to be. God is not going to drag you there.
This calls for you to give up all blaming and complaining. It is you that must look deep within you and decide how to improve your life by improving your attitude. The quality of your life, your relationships, your work, your education, your finances, your health and the overall joy and peace that you have depend entirely on you, on your attitude, on your choices and on the actions you are willing to take. No one else is going to improve your life, your family, your marriage or your job for you. No, it’s you!
If we all wait for someone someday to fix it for us, then we may have to wait for a very long time. Everyone has their own life to work on. Your boss has their own life to work on, your parents too have their own lives to work on, your spouse too. The much needed
realization is that your political representative also has their own life to work on. So that leaves you and I by ourselves needing to work on improving our own lives. This doesn’t mean no one will be there for you. It doesn’t mean you have no one to support you. It means, you are entirely responsible for knowing what kind of support you need for you to be able to move from where you are to where you want to be then going ahead and asking for that support.
Giving up blaming and complaining gives you back your power. You realize that you have a say in the matters that affect your life. You consciously start to create the life that you want to have instead of being resigned to where you are- in all areas of your life.
In your health- are you taking care of your body? From the food you eat or don’t eat, to the exercise, the amount of rest you give to yourself, are you nourishing your body so it may support you to accomplish the things that you want to accomplish? Are you taking responsibility for your growth in every area of life?
Remember all areas of your life impact one another so when you neglect one area, the wheel will not balance.
Taking 100% responsibility for your life and results is your starting point for living a balanced life. It helps you develop both your personal and professional life in a balanced way allowing you the freedom to choose which area of life you want to work on at a specific time. It will also help you clarify your priorities and to schedule your time according to what priority you allocate each activity and how it impacts the different areas of your life.
When you start to consciously create the pattern of your life that you want, you stop playing victim. You are in charge. You automatically become a leader whether by position or not. You start to get seen, heard and acknowledged because you know where you are going and you are taking the actions to get you there. That’s the point in your life where you can’t be ignored whether at work or in other areas of your life. You become an effective person.
So, I repeat, give up all blaming and complaining and take charge of your life.
- It’s not your boss who is failing you, it’s you.
- It’s not government that is failing you, it’s you.
- It’s not your spouse or your parents that have failed you, it’s you.
Once you put yourself at the center and powerfully take charge of your life and of the direction you want it to take, then the things you want begin to gravitate towards your direction. That promotion you’ve been hoping for will only be possible if you take charge of your results and powerfully position yourself for it. Or better still, if, using your results as a reference, you powerfully negotiate for it. Your health will improve, your performance in school will take a peak, your relationships will work out, your finances and your overall quality of life will significantly improve.
Most importantly, you get back your confidence, your peace of mind, your freedom to try bigger things, to take more risks and to reach for the life that you want.
I invite you to choose one area of life that is important to you and focus on taking 100% responsibility for moving it in the direction that you desire. Be consistent, take the necessary actions, ask for help when you need it. Give up blaming others for your failures or complaining about what others are not doing. Just ACT AS IF it entirely depends on you whether others support you or on. Decide that ‘if it’s going to happen, it’s up to me.’ Then watch yourself soar and produce results beyond your own expectations.
E+R=O (Event + Response = Outcome). Most often we blame the events in our lives for our outcome. We complain about what is happening or not happening in our lives, our marriage, our finances, and so on. We complain about our employer, the kind of family we were born into, the kind of schools we went to, the list of complaints is endless. Yet we don’t go out of our way to take the actions that we should to cause the results that we want in our life or to the actions that would move us from where we are to where we want to be.
Much worse, we move through life blindly without clarifying where we actually want to be. Do you know what you need to have in your life- all areas of your life for you to be successful?
Complaining and blaming others does not move your life towards where you want to be. It is the actions you take that will take you there.
Ask yourself now;
- What is the one area of my life that I’d like to focus on working on now and move from where it is to where I want it to be?
- What is working in this area of life?
- What is not working?
- Where would I want to be regarding this area of my life in the next five years?
- If I continue living my life the same way I’m living now, where will I be in this area of my life in the next five years?
- What do I need to do or stop doing in this area of my life so I may change the trend and move towards where I want to be?
If you answer these questions thoughtfully, and you take the necessary actions, you will be on your way to taking 100% responsibility for your life and you will begin to see yourself automatically producing the results that you want to produce in your life.
Let me celebrate with you when this happens and you results start showing up!